Selfless Love - Does it exist ??

Oxford dictionary describes "selfless" as "not interested in one's self". Nowadays, people try to outdo each other by doing so called "selfless" or "charitable" acts. Someone said, "Charity is not giving a bone to a dog; it is giving a bone to a dog when you are as hungry as the dog" ..

The most often quoted example of selfless love is that of a mother's love to her kid(s). Poets,philosophers,artists - you name them - they have used reams of paper and gallons of ink to illustrate this selfless love. But, is mother's love actually a selfless love ?? For the sake of reasoning, let us assume a scenario wherein a mother,who is from a poor family, had given away her share of food to ensure that her child does not go hungry.The question to be asked is , would she have done the same if the child in question did not happen to be "her" child ??

Given this apparent contradiction, one can go to the next level and say that selfless love involves deeds between strangers without any benefit for the doer. I may not be too off the mark by presuming that these kind of acts are driven by the doer's sense of sympathy or empathy.However, if he acts to satisfy "his" sense of sympathy or empathy (or whatever it is), knowingly or unknowingly, can it be termed as "selflessness"?

Hence, does "selfless love" exist in its purest sense or is it just only an oxymoron ??

Kaapatungo !!!!!

For some time till recently, I have been successfully evading the marriage topic. But when one of the management trainee in my office called me "uncle", I decided it is high time to move on with life to the next stage. After all, happiness can't last forever :-))))If not for marriage, guys will not ever get to know what is mistake in life ..

One day we were watching TV in our home, when one of the songs featuring Trisha was playing. I said to my mom,"Look, atleast you need not find me a girl as beautiful as Aishwariya Rai, I will settle atleast for someone who resembles Trisha". Mom - "Ido paaru da, beauty is only skin deep. (I sometimes feel this statement is used unnecessarily. Beauty is ,of course, skin deep !!!)Do not get carried away by physical beauty".
Ok, she is not looking for a beautiful wife for me :(((((

"Thik hai. They say if you are born poor that is your fate. But if your father in law is poor, then it is your foolishness!!"
"Che che ... Money can't buy you happiness. (I know that, but it can buy things which can make me happy. No one sees that !!)So let that not be the criteria for you."
Ok then, no rich father in law for me .(((((

"Sari ma .. You know ***(I told the name of one of my friend's wife who my mom knows very well). She is very cultured, good hearted and a sweet girl.You know it. Alteast find a girl like that "
Letting out a big sigh, she said,"You know da,it is extremely difficult to find a girl like that."

Oh my god , no beauty, no money and no gunam !!! Yakka,Athai,Kaapatungo !!!!